In every village, in every county and state babies are screaming.
They are screaming for help.
Screaming for someone to listen.
Their parents listen, they hear their pain. They can do nothing about it.
Or can they?
Our evidence-based medical world has decided in that a baby with colic or reflux is normal.
They have decided that it is normal to projectile vomit after every meal.
That it is normal to have tummy pain so bad baby cannot sleep.
That is is normal for baby to inconsolably scream in pain for hours on end.
That the only thing we can do for these babies is to take an experimental approach with medications to chemically change how their body functions with a blatant ignorance to the long term consequences to these vulnerable children.
And when the medications don’t work, mums are blamed, and told that they need to toughen up, be less anxious and get used to parenting.
Why do we stand by and accept the harrowing prognosis of reflux as being “something that some babies get”, and that there isn’t much we can do about it.
It it time to make a stand.
I am the voice of these babies.
I am the advocate for their parents and caregivers.
I am the Baby Reflux Lady.
Reflux is not a disease as we have been led to believe. And it does not get resolved by medications of any sort, ever.
In fact, in far too many cases the long term medication of infants with extremely high doses of adult medication is causing life changing illnesses such as Small Intestine Bacterial Overgrowth, histamine sensitivity (or intolerance), ADHD as well as the proven inks to severe gastroenteritis, weaker bones and 367% increase in developing a food allergy.
How is this just or fair?
How is this the best way of supporting these children?
Back in 2003, the head of Medicaaid and Medicare said at a meeting of the American Medical Association "You should be embarrassed if you prescribe Nexium [a PPI], because it increases costs with no medical benefit."
A blanket approach to reflux does not work. Just as blanket medication does not work.
When reflux can be completely resolved, simply, by addressing the underlying causes for every baby.
In a recent straw poll, only 18% of parents reported that their baby’s reflux improved dramatically with medication, and 90% of their babies continued to have reflux symptoms.
When we address the causes and deal with them, reflux disappears. Completely.
The greatest challenge we have is the culture that we are living in. The culture that believes if a doctor doesn’t have the answer then there must not be an answer.
I want to challenge that for a moment.
Do you know that it takes an average of 17 years for proven medical research to make its way into general practice. And a considerable number of studies published by the medical community are funded by food and / or pharmaceutical companies.
Perhaps this may sound uncomfortable, too much like a conspiratory theory, like I’m going barking mad that I think doctors don’t have all the answers and our medical system is too heavily influenced by the profit-making pharmaceutical and food giants.
It may well be the time to wake up and smell the coffee.
Unless you are the parent of a baby with reflux, then you are unlikely to be able to fully understand just how neglected these babies are.
As parents of suffering children, we have learned to shut up and put up.
No-one understands us, our doctors tell us we are the ones that are over anxious and causing our baby’s reflux (we read this as pain) and that because our baby is otherwise healthy, gaining weight and meeting their "Red Book" targets that we should be happy that we have such a healthy baby.
This isn’t enough.
Around the world reflux is breaking people, breaking marriages, breaking families.
Reflux introduces stress to a relationship beyond anything you have ever experienced. Not because baby is suffering, let me show you an evening...
Mum has been holding a screaming baby all day. She feels like a complete failure because she cannot get her baby to sleep and she feels completely helpless. Her doctor has told her that she should be grateful that her baby is so healthy, and that this is a phase that will pass. But when will it pass?
It's early evening, her partner comes home from work, exhausted and worried. Worried about their baby and their partner. Worried about keeping their job due to reduced performance from exhaustion. Worried about the near term ability to keep food on the table.
There are deep feelings because their baby just screams all the time. There is lamenting the loss of the life they thought they would have. Questioning their decision to become parents. Wondering what this is all going to do to their older children who are getting ignored.
All the while, their baby continues to be in pain. Sleeping now and again for 30-40 minutes, and needing to be held.
This exhaustion is causing postnatal depression. It is contributing to other health issues and does nothing beneficial for the health of the individual or the family.
Yet all the time, the parents have to grin and bear it, because the medical community do not see reflux as something serious. The medical community do not see reflux as something that can be cured. And the medical community are happily ignoring the long term impact of medications on these infants, who, as a result of this weak treatment in the early days, are more likely to develop greater health issues later in life that will continue to keep the pharmaceutical companies well in the black.
This needs to stop.
It is time to start paying attention to the facts.
It is time to start treating each baby with reflux as an individual rather than a number and time to be solving reflux before it destroys more lives.
I have written about reflux extensively and you will find everything you need right now in The Baby Reflux Lady’s Survival Guide.
My work is about teaching parents and professionals how to read the symptoms and behaviours their baby is using to communicate with us, to figure out what is their unique cause and then what action to take to resolve it.
Let's eradicate baby reflux.
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